LIFESTYLE: MANAGING STRESS AS A MUSLIMAH

HOW TO MANAGE

STRESS AS A MUSLIMAH

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Stress is part of every human being. It has made itself a cornerstone of our lifestyle. Not only has it integrated itself into our livelihood it has also affected our productivity and response towards our immediate surroundings. So how do we conquer this constant intruder? How do we manage ourselves during the periods we get stressed?
To answer these questions. We must first know what stress is? “Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. When you sense danger whether its real or imagined the body’s defences kick into high gear in a rapid automatic process known as the fight or flight reaction or the stress response.” .www.helpguide.org/stress-symptoms-signs-and-causes.htm.

When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones including adrenaline and cortisol which rouse the body for emergency action. The most dangerous thing about stress is how it easily creeps on you. You get used to it. It starts to feel familiar and even normal, which makes it very important to be on the watch for the warning signs of stress which includes poor judgement, depression, irritability or anger, diarrhea, frequent colds or flu, eating more or less, nervous habit such as nail-biting, pacing and so on.
Common causes of stress include;

  • major life challenges;
  • work or school;
  • relationship difficulties;
  • negative self-talk, and a host of others

It is however important to note that not all stress are bad. In small doses, stress can help you perform under pressure and motivate you to do your best. But when you are constantly running in emergency mode, your mind and body pay the price.
So how then do we manage stress as a human being, as a woman and as a Muslimah?

TIPS FOR MANAGING STRESS

  1. Find a support system or group. Having a group of persons or friends you can talk to takes your mind off things and makes you calm down. Choosing your Muslim sisters has your best friends or confidant is very helpful. They tend to relate to your problem better than anybody else. Remember a problem shared is half solved
  2. Change your attitude, talk to yourself positively. Develop a positive thinking habit. “Life is 10 per cent what happens to us and 90 per cent how we react.”
    “Hold on fast unto the rope of Allah…”
  3. Be realistic with yourself: set practical goals for dealing with situations and solving problems. Develop a realistic expectation of yourself and others. What you know you can’t do, don’t stress yourself trying to do it.
  4. Get organized and take charge: this is very important, so many situations and stressful moment will come your way. When they hit you, don’t wallow too much in worry and self-pity, organize yourself and take charge before the situation takes charge of you.
  5. Set your schedule: I know persons that don’t do their work until the last hour and when that period comes they have too many things to do on their hands they don’t even know where to start. Set your schedule don’t push what you are supposed to do on Monday into Tuesday and Wednesday, it will only stress you out.
  6. Take breaks: give yourself what is called “me time” for rejuvenation and relaxation. Resting period is there to refuel you.
  7. Take good care of yourself. Eat regularly and allow yourself to do something you love each day
  8. Learn to say No; protect yourself, you can’t always do everything. Learn to tell people No when you can’t afford to do what they ask you.
  9. Get a hobby, do something different for a balanced lifestyle: go out, attend fun fairs.
  10. Slow down and know your limit
  11. Laugh, use humour its sunnah

How to conquer stress Islamically

  • Seek help through Sabr (patience) and As–Salat and truly it is extremely heavy and hard except for the true believers in Allah… Quran 2:45.
    Whatever afflicts us as a Muslimah is not without the knowledge of our Creator. Let’s have patient and cry unto Allah during our Solah
  • Be thankful to Allah in all circumstances.
    “If you are grateful I will give you more.” Quran 14:75
  • A hadith of the prophet has been reported to have entrenched that Moderate Act is the best act. In that hadith it was reported that three men came to the prophet the first one told him he will continue fasting all through the year and never stop, the second man said he will pray all through the night and never sleep, the third said to the prophet as for him he will never marry. The prophet rebuked their intentions to do so and told them that he fast but he breaks his fast, he prays during the night and sometimes he sleeps and thirdly he takes wife.
    Being moderate in our actions is part of being a Muslim, moderation means less stress.
  • Rest
    “We have made you sleep as a thing for rest. And have made the night as a covering. Through its darkness.” suratul Naba
  • Islam is truly a total way of life. There are dua that guides against stress. Two of them are:
    YA HAYYU, YA QAYYUMU BI RAHMATIKA ASTAGHITHU
    O THE EVER LIVING O THE ETERNAL I SEEK HELP IN YOUR GRACE
    Source Tirmidhi
    Dua for Stress, worry and grieve. You can find this dua in the citadel of the believer

ALLAHUMA INNEE ABDUKA, IBNU ABDIKA, IBNU AMATIKA, NAASIYATEE BIYADIKA, MAADHIN FIYYA HUKMUKA, ADLUN FIYYA QADHAA’ UKA, AS ALUKA BIKULLI ISMIN HUWA LAKA, SAMMAYTA BIHI NAFSAKA, AW ANZALTAHU FEE KITAABIKA, AW ALLAHTAHU AHADAN MIN KHALQIKA, AWISTA’ THARTA BIHI FEE ILMIL-GHAYBI INDAKA, AN TAJ’ALAL- QUR’AANA RABEE’A QALBEE, WA NOORA SADREE, WA JALAA’A HUZNEE, WA THAHAABA HAMMEE.”

“O ALLAH, I AM YOUR SLAVE AND THE SON OF YOUR MALE SLAVE AND THE SON OF YOUR FEMALE SLAVE. MY FOREHEAD IS IN YOUR HAND i.e you have control over me) YOUR JUDGEMENT OVER ME IS ASSUREDAND YOUR DRCREE CONCERNING ME IS JUST I ASK YOU BY EVERY NAME THAT YOU HAVE NAMED YOURSELF WITH, REVEALED IN YOUR BOOK, TAUGHT ANYONE OF YOUR CREATION OR KEPT UNTO YOURSELF IN THE KNOWLEDGE OF THE UNSEEN THAT IS WITH YOU, TO MAKE THE QURAN THE SPRING OF MY HEART, AND THE LIGHT OF MY CHEST, THE BANISHER OF MY SADNESS AND THE RELIEVER OF MY DISTRESS.”

For our married sisters who do a lot of household chores. Islam got you covered!
It was reported that Fatimah came to the Prophet once asking for maids from him to ease her household chores for her in her husband’s house. The prophet responded and said: “shall I not teach you something better that you ask for? When you go to your bed at night, magnify Allah 34 times, glorify him 33 times and praise him thirty three times that is better for you than a servant “(Allahu akbar 34, alhamdullilah 33 and Subhanallah 33)
{sahih Al Bukhari 3502}

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